The Healing Journey has Intertwined Layers

When someone approaches me and says,
"Tarkan, I want to improve and get more money."

I know it's rarely just a simple request for more money.

Behind the request lies deeper desires.

Let’s imagine they want to boost their business. They want more cash flow, seeking better deals—it's a common need. A straightforward service provider, like a savvy marketing agency, could certainly meet that demand.

Yet, here’s the thing: you chase money, not for it’s own sake, but for something deeper. You seek confidence, love, and a sense of belonging. Everything that you think would come with the money.

This is where we get it wrong.

Real transformation happens when we address the root of the issue with precision. Real transformation happens when we hit the nail with the hammer.

In order to do that, we need to be precise in the true incentives behind most of the times superficial goal setting. And we humans happen to be psychologically complex beings. We experience trauma and learn to avoid feelings. Sometimes this avoidance then transforms into some totally different behaviour. We are naturally covert beings. A sexual trauma can influence your behaviour in the professional world, even though it seems totally unrelated.

On the journey of healing, what you as the client, is seeing as the goal may differ from my perspective as a coach.

You might think the next step is on the physical level, while I sense an emotional blockage that needs to be addressed before we can move forward. The beauty of this process is that you have the time to discover your full self, which typically consists of four layers:

• physical,
• emotional,
• spiritual,
• and mental.

Control Systems Overview

Our existence is a masterpiece of interconnected systems.

The Physical, Emotional, Mental, and Spiritual layers work together to shape our experience of life. These layers do & can not operate in isolation—they continuously interact with vital physiological subsystems, like the musculoskeletal, visceral, hormonal, and limbic systems.

When functioning within the "zone of normal" (meaning relatively stress free), these control systems maintain harmony. But if stress, trauma, or misalignment happens in one area, it can ripple through the others.

Example given: Unresolved emotional stress can manifest as hormonal imbalances or physical tension. Neglecting the spiritual layer can negatively influence mental clarity and emotional resilience.

Understand these control systems and their interactions, so you can approach health and your evolution holistically. We all live on these realities. Some more in others, some less. But they are core realities within the human experience.

Let’s uncover those layers!