Live Life by Design, not Disaster

Are You Living Your Life By Design?

—or the one you just fell into?

Most of us slip into routines we never consciously chose. Chances are, your life has been shaped more by circumstances than intentional decisions.

And even if you did consciously choose your path, over time, autopilot likely kicked in.

You run your own business, everything is fine and all, but here's the truth: life and business are always reflections of you. Your stress, your pain, and your attachment to struggle inevitably bleed into your work. It’s easy to think that being a business owner means freedom, but even then, you can still be enslaved by your own creation.

You find yourself overwhelmed, constantly stressed by the business you thought would liberate you. The people you’ve chosen to work with feel more like complications than collaborators. And you struggle to keep a clean line between your personal life and your professional world—they’re constantly entangled, pulling you in every direction.

The Hidden Problem

Why are you doing this? Because of commitments you made long ago, often without even realizing it.

To heal your emotions is the key here.

You’re addicted to pain and stress, believing that suffering is the price of success.

It’s also a mindset thing.

Go hard until the end. Only then you’ll be deserving.

Most people are living lives shaped by commitments and routines they never consciously chose. Over time, these choices pile up, leaving them stuck in patterns that don’t align with their true desires. Some even become addicted to the chaos—constantly overwhelmed by stress and pain, believing that struggle is just part of the deal.

This unconscious way of living doesn’t just steal your time and energy; it leads to burnout, frustration, and a sense of emptiness.

The result? A life that feels off course, disconnected from the freedom and fulfillment you once envisioned.

But here’s the good news—within this realization lies hope. The moment you recognize the chains holding you back is the moment you gain the power to break them.

Designing a Life and Business That Aligns with Your True Self

The solution to living an intentional, fulfilling life lies in designing a life and business that seamlessly integrates with your personal routine, well-being and values.

By applying principles from design, user experience, and system thinking, you can create a lifestyle that not only feels good but functions effortlessly.

When you design your life with intention, you stop reacting to circumstances and start shaping your reality. You are starting to steer your ship.

This means taking control of how you spend your time, how you interact with the world, and how your business integrates into your life—so that both support and enhance each other, rather than creating friction.

Key elements of Life by Design include two vital approaches:

1. Holistic Lifestyle Coaching

Holistic Lifestyle Coaching focuses on the person behind the business. It’s about designing a life that promotes ease, balance, and genuine fulfillment. The goal is to help you step out of reactive living—where your life feels like it’s running you—and into a state of proactive, conscious decision-making.

Through this approach, you’ll learn to align your daily actions with your core values, creating a lifestyle that feels like a natural extension of who you are.

This involves:

• We gauge your stress levels.
• Identifying personal values and life goals, or your dream outcome. More on your dream is written in my post “What Is Your Dream, What Is Your Truth?”
• Developing daily routines that minimize negative stress and maximize fulfillment. They could require gratification delay, but makes your life more happy in the long run.
• Cultivating mindfulness and self-awareness to stay in tune with what truly matters.
• Creating boundaries between work and personal life to ensure both thrive.

The result is a life that feels meaningful, with more energy, peace, and satisfaction. We are also going deep into what was meant for you from the beginning through divination tools.

2. System Design for Business

While personal well-being is crucial, we can’t ignore the systems that run your business.

System Design for Business focuses on creating efficient, streamlined systems that free up your time and mental energy. By using automation—whether it’s through little tweaks, software, hardware, or AI—you can set your business on autopilot (as much as it is possible without it losing soul/brand authenticity), leaving you more time to focus on your personal growth and other pursuits.

This approach will teach you how to:

• Automate repetitive tasks so you can focus on high-impact work.
• Integrate the right software and tools that work for you, reducing stress and complexity.
• Implement scalable processes that grow with your business.
• Design workflows that minimize friction and improve overall efficiency.

System Design for Business allows you to run your business, instead of letting your business run you. The more smoothly your systems operate, the more energy you can dedicate to living a fulfilling, purpose-driven life.

The real work here is to carve out the lost puzzle piece to your life. Your business was an idea from the start.

It is a seed.

What is meant to be perfectly fitting into your life, needs to grow into a beautiful flower.

We carve out your plot holes, have a really honest look into how your blind spots make you suffer more than you need to. The holistic lifestyle coaching is a recommended service to take on as well, as these both services build on top of each other.

I am not saying this is easy. It requires you to confront yourself with your shortcomings.

But the results are amazing—we make operating your business a beautiful experience, so you can start enjoying your life.

A Life By Design

A life by design is developing a life, where you are the creator, not the victim.

Like a designer who is designing a product, you are shaping your reality.

A life by design is about decreasing negative stress (making it comfortable) for yourself, so you can increase positive stress (bear more uncomfortableness).

— what do I mean by stress?

Positive stress is

• short lived,
• intentional,
• exciting,
• stimulating,
• challenging stress.

Negative stress is

• stretching long,
• chronic,
• unconscious,
• and draining stress.

We learned about the importance of strength and love in balance in the
episode “Is Your Love too Soft or too Hard? ”

A life by design is literally designing your lifestyle — & good design is based on a good user experience.

You are the user of your lifestyle. Sounds right?

The thing you’re the designer of: your life.

If we translate that to “how you live your life”, we aim to create a routine that is:

• 1st easy to implement into our lifes,
• 2nd smooth in administration
• 3rd runs with positive stress
• and 4th fulfills us

If you’re ready to start designing your life and business with intention, shoot me an email at hi@tarko.io

This is my mission.

Kiss Kiss,

Tarkan